When we first found out that I had breast cancer, we knew we wanted to keep open communication with our children. We wanted them to feel comfortable in asking us questions and in expressing how they were feeling about it. And while we didn't want to keep it from them, we also have chosen to shield them a bit from the big wild world of cancer. We don't feel that they need to know all of the possible side effects of the treatment I am receiving. We will deal with those as they come along.
As soon as we told the kids they knew that cancer was something that you can die from. (Thanks to my prolific readers and the children's book series the Penderwicks.) We reassured them that I will be receiving the medicine that I need to help give me the best chance of beating the disease. We also have relied heavily on our faith and sharing that this is God's plan with them. That God is in control and will be with us every step of the way. That they can take all of their thoughts and cares to their loving Savior in prayer. Having a Christian community surrounding and supporting our entire family has been such a blessing for us all. Knowing that their teachers and classmates can reassure them with God's promises in his word provides such comfort.
We have also chosen to enroll our oldest three kids in C.L.I.M.B. It is a wonderful program that they attend one evening a week with other children whose lives are being impacted by cancer. They have learned about chemo, radiation, and even seen cancer cells under a microscope. Each week they discuss a feeling and will do activities surrounding those feelings. They have all enjoyed the sessions they have attended and are looking forward to the remaining C.L.I.M.B. evenings.
Around my first chemo session we enlisted the kids' help in making hand washing signs to post around the house. These signs are really reminders for them, but because they helped, it gave them a sense of ownership. We have also added a few chores to their to-do lists. And because they are being asked to help out a bit more around the house, they are now receiving an allowance in proportion to the chores they complete.
I would also say that while this is a big part of our lives right now, we are choosing not to let it be the main focus. We are keeping life as normal as we possibly can.
So many wonderful people have stepped up to help us out with our kids. I am often reminded of the phrase, "it takes a village." Right now is a time in our lives where we need some extra help and support and our village has stepped up in a big way. I can totally see the hand of God in all of the people helping us, praying for us, and encouraging us on this journey.
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